A Skippers Tale XXXIX

Permission to come aboard sir?

There is no easy way of putting this.  This evening we had a call from Bethesda just after 8pm to let us know that Dad had passed away.

Ever the free spirit, it appears that Dad had decided that it was time to pull up anchor and set his course on new and heavenly horizons.

As much as it was expected, it still came as a shock as we had, only a couple of hours earlier, spoken to the Nurses who gave no indication of an imminent demise.  From what the nurse said, they were settling Dad for the night making sure he was clean and comfortable when suddenly he was no longer with us.

A decision had to be made.  Did we want to come in and say goodbye, or did we want to come in tomorrow and collect his things.  I decided that I would go in.  This was for two reasons.  1) I could tell Mum wouldn’t be able to, and 2) I wanted to get some paperwork into the hospital before the funeral directors arrived.  When this happened back in February (32 weeks to the day) Mum, Dad and I had discussed an option that was available that could help other people.  Dad has decided to donate his brain to the National Brain Bank.  As ghoulish as it sounds, our reasoning is – this insidious little shite that set up home in Dad needs to be studied.  There is not very much information as to how and why they form.  The research may not have helped Dad, but perhaps Dad’s donation might help someone else in the future.  So I needed to get the consent forms into the hospital so that the funeral home knew what to do.

When I got there Dad was in the bed, looking for all intents and purposes like he had just drifted off.  I sat with him for a moment and told him that we loved him before i had the opportunity to play a couple of pieces of music that meant something to me and my faith and gave me a chance to say good bye in my own way before collecting his things and heading home.

I did mention it last night, but now it’s happened I can expand on things.  All things being equal the service for Dad will be held at the Fremantle Crematorium on Saturday 3rd October 2015 (time TBA).  There will be a wake following at the Navy Club in Fremantle itself.

Mum and I have set up a fundraising site for the Cure Brain Cancer in Dad’s name


So for now I will sign off, and thank you for following this journey we have had.


Yoli & Barb


10 thoughts on “A Skippers Tale XXXIX

  1. Dear Barbara and Yoli,

    It is with huge sadness that we hear of Fred’s passing away, he was always such a lively, cheerful and colourful character so there will now be a significant hole in your lives.

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you both as you get used to him no longer being physically with you. If only we could do more……….!

    All our Love and thoughts

    Paul and Janet xxxxx

  2. Barbara and Yoli,
    We will always remember Fred as a true gentleman who loved his family and was always there for us all. Our love and thoughts are with you both now and forever.
    Cath and Thommo

  3. Dearest Barb and Yoli, much sadness at the passing of dear Fred. It was a privilege to have know one of life’s true gentlemen. Smooth sailing ahead on calm seas my friend. Love and prayers to you both. From Lyn and Tony xx

  4. The world was a better place for you being here Fred. Your shipmates will miss you. Our condolences to Barbara and Yoli
    From Paul and Enid

  5. My sincere condolences to you Yoli and yo your Mum, I did not know your Dad, but I do understand how you will feel his loss. May he rest in eternal peace. Lyn B

  6. Barbara &Yoli

    Our deepest condolences for your loss. Fred was one of life’s gentlemen and always had a kind word for everyone.
    Unfortunately we will be over East when the funeral is due but please know our thoughts will be with you

    Peter & Jan Watt

  7. Our memories build a special bridge when loved ones have to part
    to help us feel we’re with them still and soothe a grieving heart.
    Our memories span the years we shared, preserving ties that bind,
    They build a special bridge of love and bring us peace of mind

    With love to both of you at this sad time from the “Lawrence” family
    Erica, Kim, Michael and Scott

  8. sending barb yoli and all the family condolences. My love and hugs goes to you all. my family all have many wonderful memories from a very young age of Fred.

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